HOW TO END THE HABIT OF CONCERN BEFORE IT ENDS US
Since I was little, my self-demand led me to worry about things and circumstances that did not matter, that were projected into the future or that simply couldn’t change. I was going around over and over again on decisions I had made, on words I had said and to projects that I wanted to do for fear of being wrong … This attitude took a lot of my energy away and I didn’t realize that these concerns, which were often on my mind, had not yet happened or I could no longer change. They distressed me and prevented me from enjoying the present. All this led me to read a lot on the subject and to practice the principles that I’ll explain below.
In addition to other practices, if we follow a program called “Just for Today” that was written in the early twentieth century by Sybil. F. Partritge on a daily basis, we’ll remove most of our concerns and increase our share of what the French call “joie de vivre”
Just for today:
1: Only for today I will be happy. This assumes that what Abraham Lincoln said is true – that most people are as happy as they choose to be. Happiness is something inside, not an outside matter.
2: Just for today, I will try to adjust to what is and I will not try to adjust all things.
3: Just for today I will take care of my body. I will exercise it, I will understand it, I will feed it, I will not abuse it or abandon it.
4: Just for today I will try to grow in spirit. I will learn something useful. I will read something that requires meditation and concentration.
5: Just for today, I will exercise my soul in three ways. I will do someone good without realizing it.
6: Just for today I will be nice. I will speak in a low voice, I will be generous in praise and I will not criticize anyone and I will not find fault with anything or anyone.
7: Just for today, I will try to live only this day, without addressing the whole problem of life at the same time.
8. Just for today, I will have a program. I will eliminate haste and indecision.
9- Just for today I will have half an hour of solitude and rest.
10- Just for today, I will not be afraid and, especially, I will not be afraid to be happy, to enjoy loving and to believe that those I love, love me.
For this, the easiest and most comfortable way is to place them in one or several visible places in your home or at work. In this way, your conscious and subconscious mind become familiar with this vibration so that, in silence, you begin to transform your reality.
A later step is to see how you’re applying these principles in your life, how you live them and what you can do to incorporate them more into your day-to-day life. As a result of these reflections, you will explore new paths, at your own pace and intensity, and you will reap a fuller life.
There is only this moment, here and now. If we have a purpose, it’s the purpose you have TODAY and only TODAY. You should not postpone it, nor should you project it from the past, loading it with negative and limiting experiences. And, if in spite of everything you do, you can approach it in a constructive way by analyzing the errors, take out the profitable things and eventually forget them.
Why worry then? Epictetus taught the Romans: “There is only one path that leads to happiness and that’s to stop worrying about things that are beyond your will.” If we follow this path and stop fighting for the inevitable, we release an energy that allows us to create a more abundant life. You have to choose between one thing or another, between accepting the inevitable storms of life or resisting them and going out of business.
It is our thoughts that make us what we are. Our mental attitude is the X factor that determines our destiny.
Emerson said, “A man is what he thinks about all day.” How could he be anything else? The biggest problem we have is choosing the right thoughts. If we are capable of this choice, we are on the path that leads to the solution of our problems.
Marco Aurelio, the great philosopher who ruled the Roman Empire summed it up in 8 words that can determine our destiny: “Our life is the work of our thoughts.”
In summary, according to Dale Carnegi author of “How to suppress your worries and enjoy life”, these would be the actions to take into account:
1: Expel worry from yourself by keeping yourself busy. Activity is one of the best remedies that have been devised to combat the “little devils” of the spirit.
2: Don’t be agitated by small things. Don’t let insignificant things destroy your happiness.
3: Use the law of averages to eliminate concerns. Ask yourself, what are the odds that it will happen?
4: Cooperate with the inevitable. If you know that there are some circumstances whose change or revision is out of your reach, think: It is so, it cannot be otherwise.
5: Give a “stop loss” order for your concerns. Decide how much attention they deserve and refuse to spend more time on them.
6: Let the past bury the dead. Don’t try to saw the sawdust.
Finally, if you come across a concern, apply this formula:
What is it that worries me? What is the worst that can happen? What can I do about it? What am I going to do about it?
Prepare to accept it, if necessary.
Then, calmly proceed to improve the worst.